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Looking in the Mirror: How Human Perception Distracts from the Big Picture


When looking in a mirror, at the various reflections present, one can notice there are no separations or borders dividing one reflection from another.

One needs to give attention to perceptually selecting one reflection to focus on, while giving less attention to others. The apparent “independence” of the selected image, is purely an act of selective perception.

There is no reflected object disconnected from its total field of reflections, beyond one’s “mental act” of selectively isolating a particular pattern of light and color.


This is how our human perception works.

The universe and all appearances are always in a state of inseparability and Wholeness. Our mind draws artificial lines delineating and highlighting one object out of its unbroken web of non-dual oneness. There are no separate objects or persons other than as conceptually and fictionally isolated.

This is essentially what our capacity of “selective attention” is constantly engaging in; like out-lining or highlighting inseparable parts from their context of Wholeness.

This process is exactly what “conceptualizing” is busy doing. The mind targets a perceptual pattern within the unbroken field of experience, gives it a name and meaning, while believing that it now exists as an object-entity, independent and apart from its total web of Wholeness.

The conceptualizing mind in this way creates the illusion of there being separate persons existing independent from each other, and independent of one’s “own” out-lined self image.

We then live in the imaginary world of these conceptual abstractions. The most pernicious abstraction is the one where we carve out of the Wholeness, the illusion of a personal, autonomous and independent self entity; identifying with it, trying to protect it and keep “it” (the body) from involuntarily returning to Wholeness prematurely.

Quantum physics also sees reality, the universe, as a single quantum field or quantum system constituted of various, inseparable forces comprising an unbroken Wholeness.

All our suffering comes from this process of conceptually separating out ourselves from the Wholeness and separating out “others” from the same Wholeness.


About Alex Boianghu Journey to Wholeness - About Alex Boianghu - Psychotherapist | Perception

With Journey to Wholeness, my aim is to make psychotherapy readily available to everyone around the world in the comfort and privacy of their homes.

From my perspective, the goal of therapy is to let go of outdated ways of living that make you feel “stuck” or “in survival mode”, so that you can live in freedom, joy and success.

I have been trained in both Eastern and Western psychology and philosophy, and I approach therapy in a way that integrates insights from both traditions. In addition, I have specialized in addiction and trauma treatment for the last 12 years and I incorporate EMDR method (Eye Movement Desensitization and Re-processsing) as the cutting-edge tool towards healing.

Integrative psychotherapy is a journey which explores all aspects of the psyche through a mutual process of understanding through self-inquiry.

I am also trained as a Couples’ Therapist and work with couples through all stages of relationship in helping them understand and heal themselves within the context of relationship.

In addition to psychotherapy, I am offering a variety of courses, practices, articles and videos covering a wide range of psycho-spiritual topics. Please feel free to get in touch with me for a free 15-minute consultation in which we can address your questions and discuss a plan of action for your specific needs.

I am deeply moved to walk together on the path of healing with YOU.  Join me!

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